How To Gain Her Trust From The Start
For a woman to have sex with a guy, she must not only be attracted to him, but she must also trust him. Look at it like this:
1. Trust Without Attraction = "He's a great friend and I love him to death!" (Translation: "We'll NEVER have sex!")
2. Attraction Without Trust = "I'm not a loose woman. He'll have to wait before he gets any!"
However, if the woman has both attraction AND trust for the guy, she'll be literally begging you to take her home with you that night.
Let's take a typical scenario. Say it's coming up on 11 PM, and you've been with a woman since 6 that afternoon. As long as you've had good rapport with her and you've kept pushing the interaction forward, you can assume she's attracted to you.
And by the way, with a woman, you should always assume attraction until proven otherwise. Because the bottom line is that as long as you've got good body language, you've got a lot going on in your life, and you're witty and interesting, she WILL be attracted to you.
Now you need to build trust. By the time you finish this article, you'll know an easy, efficient way to do that.
And by the way, this is a one of the best-kept secrets of human persuasion. The most successful advertisers and salesmen to make billions use it, and now you'll be able to use it with women.
Have you ever noticed how ads will sometimes mention minor defects in the products? A famous example of this was the wildly success Volkswagen Beetle ads from 30 years ago that had the huge headline: "Lemon."
The point of the ad was that not all of their cars were perfect. VW took its quality inspections so seriously that it took note of even small weaknesses in the builds of its cars.
You see, if a person tells you something that's against his self-interest, you tend to trust him more. We all do. It's a fundamental trait of human psychology.
So when it comes to women, you should point out your minor flaws and vulnerabilities. Examples could be:
- "I have a mole on my neck. Sometimes I feel self-conscious about it."
- "I had to give a speech last week and felt so nervous!"
- "I don't always floss my teeth even though I should."
Even if they're fake flaws, it doesn't necessarily matter. By pointing them out, you create a perception of honesty within the woman.
Because she believes the minor imperfections about you, she'll believe the MAJOR PERFECTIONS about you as well.
This means that, having both attraction for AND trust in you, later that night she could be breathlessly panting, "I've never done it with a guy this soon before!"
John Alexander is author of How To Become An Alpha Male, a dating success guide for men. To learn more about how you can build a woman's trust in you to captivate her completely, visit http://www.becomingalpha.com