Change Your Association

Do you know any people who seem to attract bad luck?

I had a friend years ago that just could not seem to get it together. He was in and out of jobs, had poor relationships, had no money, and had a bad attitude.

I used to think he had the bad attitude because he had the problems. Now I know he had the problems because he had the bad attitude. I know, becuse I was right down in the pit with him.

Years later, I saw a quote that hit me like a ton of bricks. It was this: "There's no way you will ever fly like an eagle if you're pecking around in the dirt with chickens." I quickly caught on to this "thinking" stuff and learned to get around more positive thinking people.

The key to changing your life for the better is to change your belief system. The key to changing belief system is changing your thoughts. I know this is easier said than done because the manner of thinking you are engaged in has been your way of thinking most of your life. It's a habit. But, like any habit, you can change it.

The best way to change your thoughts is by changing your association. If you're hanging around with negative, broke, and fearful people you will develop a tendancy to think the same way.

I eventually developed a friendship with a guy that everything he touched seemed to turn to gold. Because he always pictured himself as a great success he became a powerful magnet that attracted positive outcomes. The effort he put forth to achieve his goals came naturally. The work did not seem like work because he enjoyed what he did. The guy just amazed me and I wanted to be like him.

Again, the best ways to change your thinking is by changing your association. I am not saying you must never be friends with certain people but sometimes you must love certain people from a distance. Personally, I severed three relationships that were dragging me down.

I still love these three people. I just don't go out regularly with them anymore. If they are ever in need of something I will definately be there for them. But as long as they remain unwilling to become more positive about themselves and their lives, then I choose not to let their negativity rub off on me.

Whatever you need to do to become more of a positive thinking person with higher expectations, you need to do it. It is written in Philippians 4:8, "Whatever things are true, whatever things are honest, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue, and if there is any praise, think on these things."

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