Stimulation

You get her number, set up the date, take her out, and get her to come back to your place for "a few drinks". You are sitting on the couch kissing and fooling around with her, but after a while she says "It's getting kind of late... I've better get going". Being the gentleman that you are, you respect her wishes and show her out, even though you are pissed beyond belief... and stuck with a severe case of blue-balls.

The reason why this happens to many men is because of a lack of the proper stimulation. If you want to turn "It's getting kind of late... blah blah blah" into "One more time before I leave for work" you must stimulate her mind and body, starting with her mind first. Men are most aroused by what we see, for example... a nice ass. Women are most aroused by what they hear, so one of the best techniques any player can use in these critical situations is "talking dirty". Telling a woman what you are going to do to her before you do it will make her much more aroused than actually performing the act, which is the exact opposite with men... we want to see and feel it, not hear it.

Women love foreplay, and the more that you tease her the less chance you have of her leaving or stopping your progress... as long as your teasing is performed properly. Always take things slow and never make any sudden movements, the idea is to move your hands and body slow and smooth while maintaining fluid motion; don't do one thing for too long because this will give her time to think, and I can guarantee some of the first things that will pop into her head are "I've only known this guy for..." and "What will my friend's think", which are obviously not in your best interest. The trick is to keep things happening faster than her mind can keep up, because if her mind is given even a few moments without the need to concentrate on what she is doing, she will begin to think about the current situation and may have second thoughts.

Don't forget to keep talking, and always keep the conversation sexual. If you let the topic of discussion drift to something non sex-related then you are screwed, and not the way you were hoping. Whisper your comments into her ear and kiss her ear while your at it, the ear is one of the best spots to kiss a woman to get her in the mood and keep her that way. If you are kissing her body, always work your way back to her mouth every-so-often, and each time make your kissing more intense.

Forget about her tits. Feel them for a few seconds, kiss them for a few seconds, and quickly move down below. Any stimulation you can provide to her breasts will not be sufficient to get her ready for sex, so they should only be given a small amount of attention. You can even forget about them all together, and if she has small breasts she will most likely be happy that you did.

Before ANYTHING happens (before you sit down) you should always remove any rings/watches/bracelets that you have on so you can slip your hand down into her pants quickly without anything getting "hooked". Forget about her belt and unbuttoning her pants, you can get your hand down there without doing any of that... trust me. If you waste time attempting to undo that stuff she may stop you by grabbing your hand and shaking her head no. You can do all of that later because once she is aroused enough none of it will matter anymore.

Once you've got your hand down her pants it's a done deal (assuming that you know what & where a clitoris is).

P.S. Be safe and wear condoms! Get some for free at FreeCondoms.com

This article was written by the founder of Becomeaplayer.com known only as The Player. For more articles and free tips on picking up women check out the web site.


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