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Society's Misconception of Soul Mates - Divine Source through Barbara Rose


Society's current conception of the term "soul mate" is completely contrary to what the term really means.Imagine two gallons of water taken from the AtlanticOcean. Both gallons consist of the same energy becausethey were both part of the same ocean. Yet each gallon willhave its own experience separate from the other.Now imagine a soul in the nonphysical realm thatchooses to experience different aspects of itself by inhabitingtwo different people. Those people consist of the sameenergy as that one soul: they are soul mates.

Most people on planet Earth do not meet their true soulmates; to do so, to reach the stage where the gift of reunionbecomes manifest requires lifetimes of growth and evolution.So far, only about two percent of the human populationhave actually met their true soul mates.

When most people think of soul mates, they picture aman and woman walking in some eternal garden of mental,emotional, and physical paradise right here on Earth, withouta day's worry or tearful eye. But as those who have mettheir soul mates will attest, this picture of a garden of eternal, blissful paradise is anything but the truth. Yet, once the challenges of their special union have been met successfully,it becomes the truth.

How will you know if yours is indeed a union of soulmates? I will tell you.

* How it feels to be in a union of soul mates

From the moment you meet, there is a certain familiarity, aknowing you cannot describe in words. In the beginning ofyour relationship, you do, in fact, feel as if you were inheaven on Earth. You feel love, a union, as if you were a perfectmatch, which you are. You blend on all levels and in allways. You feel that you share something unique, somethingmysterious yet so familiar. You understand each other instinctively, intuitively, and easily, as if you had known eachother for eons, as indeed you have.

You see right through to each other's core, and you seeeach other's best. Each of you is amazed, captivated, evenovercome by the other's energy, intelligence, grace, and naturalabilities; yet, at the same time, you see all of the other'sweaknesses, the areas in which growth is needed. You arenot bothered by these weaknesses, however, because youknow or believe the other has what it would take to meetthese challenges and grow through them.

Your bond is akin to white on rice. You fit together handin custom-made glove. And, despite being so alike, you embodyvast differences. Certainly biological differences: onemale, one female. And perhaps intellectual differences: youmay be at opposite ends of the intellectual spectrum, withone of you scientifically inclined and the other, spiritual.Yet in your core you each carry and sustain a comfort level,a feeling of safety and innate understanding you can neverput into words. For how can you possibly describe understandingthe very depths of one another such a short time afteryour physical meeting in this life. You cannot. It isinherent. Natural. It simply is.

And it is what you share: your souls, your energy, how insync you are with each other, how you can sometimes finisheach other's sentences, how you have a psychic connectionthat you have never experienced before. When you are together,you do, in fact, feel you are in your own heaven, yourown paradise. You are, after all, with your true other half, so,naturally, you feel as natural with the other and, at times, understand the other more than you understand your self. Doyou know why?

Because you chose to meet in this life to grow. This iswhere the challenges come into play.

* How the soul-mate reunion brings profoundgrowth and transformation

A short while after your blissful bond becomes intense, thechallenges - the true reasons why you chose to meet againand join physically in this life - come to the surface.Havoc ensues.

Surely you are not on this Earth to stagnate but to grow.And so ruffles appear within the relationship. But the ruffleshave a purpose: they bring to your attention those areaswithin that each of you must confront, work through, and ultimately heal. No one but your true soul mate couldintuitively pull out from your core depths those precise areasthat need to grow and heal.

Of course growth is uncomfortable; it is far easier to stagnate.Therefore, you may find yourselves engaged in a tug ofwar. You may even break up temporarily. But no matter howhard you try, you cannot ever escape the truth of your naturalbond. That bond, made up of the energy and chemistryyou share with your soul mate, can never be broken.Because you cannot escape the truth, you have to face it;And when you do, you reap great rewards indeed. When youtry to deny or turn away from the reasons you chose to bewith your true match, however, you put yourself throughunnecessary pain.

It is precisely those areas of growth that you are meant toconfront, work through, and heal - the areas your truematch has gotten you to notice - that make you to want torun and hide.

But because you can't hide from the truth, you begin,slowly, to realize that yes, you do have issues, core issues thatyou deserve to heal. And your soul mate sees those issuesquite clearly, but they do not bother him or her nearly asmuch as they bother you. They are simply your deepest challenges;once you meet them, they are healed. Then you experienceonce again so much of that heaven on Earth the two ofyou had at the beginning of your relationship.

Denying those challenges is like trying to fight the currentof a powerful river. That river is your soul, trying tocarry you home to that place of wholeness within where thefalse views and perceptions of self are finally healed.

Fighting this current is fighting the course you chose in orderto heal. Meeting your soul mate is the gift that enablesyou to heal those aspects of your being you have been longingto heal.

This process has been set in motion only because youchose to meet your true other half in this life, to experiencethe healed, validated, and wonderful being that you are. It isin sharing your growth process with the one who has thesame energy you do, the one with whom you fit so perfectly,that you are able to see that process in action. It is then thatyou experience that heaven-on-earth feeling and, together,experience the perfect fit again. The paradox is that in orderto maintain that fit, you must heal that part within which nolonger serves your evolutionary growth.

The patterns of eons past no longer fit. So, in this life, youchose to meet the one who you knew from the beginning wasyour perfect match.

Fight as you may, that truth shall always be there. And,more than you can imagine, your soul mate is rooting for youto grow. Grow through and heal the false views of self thathinder your evolution, that cause you to stagnate unnecessarilyin a life into which you were born to live, experience, explore,thrive, and share the essence of yourself.

You try to run, but you cannot. Your heart longs for thatone person, that one true match who understands you so andwhose love is so pure. You have known that all along. Andthough you may feel you do not deserve that love, this feelingis a fallacy.

We all deserve love, soul mate or not.

So, you have challenges that you have chosen to overcome.And there, by your side, is this person who, for some reasonyou cannot understand, has not told you to go away a longtime ago. The reason is that they are a part of you. They shareyour energy. They are rooting for you. Once you decide toovercome your growth challenges, then and only then willyou receive the true bliss of the soul-mate reunion.

The price is honest work on self, removing all old, ingrained,negative patterns that no longer serve you, so youcan finally experience the true you, the you that you havebeen working to achieve for many lifetimes in your evolutionaryprocess. The rewards are indescribable.

Like you, your soul mate has his own issues, which youpull out from within his very core. Every time he tries to runaway from facing his responsibility to self, to work throughand heal his issues, there you pop up again.

So you are each faced with a choice.Avoid self growth, and leave your true match behind,never to be forgotten, always to be longed for - or face thoseaspects within yourself, work on them, and heal them soyou are finally and truly free of them. Then you will haveyour special and perfect match by your side for the remainderof this life.That is the choice.

Copyright 2005 by Barbara Rose, All Rights Reserved.

Barbara Rose is an Internationally acclaimed public speaker, spiritual author of: "Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being THE ONE" "If God Was Like Man" and "Individual Power: Reclaiming Your Core, Your Truth, and Your Life", founder of The Rose Group publishing company, inspire! Magazine, Institute of Higher Self Communication, and Rose Humanitarian Alliance.

She works in Divine Cooperation with others to uplift the spiritual consciousness of humanity. Through a Divine Spiritual gift she brings through information to create the highest vision of your life, and our world. Her internationally praised seminars, widely published articles, Higher Self Certification intensives, and Divinely Channeled private consultations have changed the lives of thousands across the globe. For enlightening info, contacts, books, articles and resources to help you become your highest self, visit Barbara's website: http://www.borntoinspire.com


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